We live in a world that momentairly rewards us for saying “yes” to everything your boss, family and friends ask for. But as we all know, that reward is short lived. Your boss likes you a little bit more for a second, but you quickly become overstressed, overworked and lose focus on your end goal.
We have become so accustomed to working reactively that shifting our mindsets over to working and thinking more proactively seems wrong. What ever would we do with a moment of silence or time to think about work and life goals!?!
We love checking things off of our daily “to-do” list. The busier we are the more productive we feel. However, being busy today without actively doing things that will help you feel wiser and more fulfilled 10 years from now is really all at a loss.
Spoiler: This audio does not follow the script written here on this blog. Oh, and I sing at the end.
I, myself, am a recovering “yes bitch”. I hate letting friends, clients and family down so much that I would rather say “YES” to every request that comes my way knowing full well that with that one simple word, I have added another weight in my stress bucket. Then I listened to Essentialism: The Disiplined Prusuit of Less, By: Greg McKeown, on a drive down to see my family and it all clicked. I said yes to every engagement that weekend, leaving my husband and kids behind in Vegas and by the end of it, I was literally aching to get back to what truly is the most important thing in my life — my kids. By saying yes to other requests, I said no to those tiny voices asking mommy to come home. Once Greg McKeown slapped me across the face with a truth I already knew was there, I knew I had to commit to life and ultimately a mindset shit towards Essentialism.
Essentialism is not about doing less or having less — in fact, it is the exact opposite. Essentialism is about un-committing to the things that aren’t important to your life 10 years from now. It’s about WINNING BIG by cutting losses.
So next time you say yes to something, think “What is the trade-off?” And then actually make the trade-off. For every new commitment there must be a resource allocation change to come along with it.
Got it? Good. Now say yes to following me and helping me out on my/our journey to essentialism.